Venkataraghavan என்கிற விஜய்

Venkatraghavan (a) Vijay

(b: 07-04-1979   d: 20-09-2013)

VENKATRAGHAVAN (Vijay) ,eldest son of my younger brother Jayaraman and Kalyani on 7th April 1979 at Erode, Tamilnadu. He had his school education in Mathuranthakam, Rangarajapuram (Chennai) and Coimbatore. He did his BBA in Coimbatore.

Jayaraman and family shifted to Chennai in 2009 after retirement and lived at Vadapalani in their own house. Vijay lived with them.

Though he had temporary jobs at various times, he was jobless many of the times. He didn't get married either, unfortunately.

He left the house on Friday, the 20th Sep 2013, to an undisclosed destination. As a normal routine, I phoned Jayaraman at 6 PM that evening and enquired about all, incl Vijay. Jayaraman told Vijay is fine and okay.

The very night, at 12-10 midnight, Jayaraman phoned us and gave the shocking news that Vijay has expired at Pondicherry ! We could not just believe it. He had died in a Lodge room at Pondicherry which was broken open by the Police. Vijay had IDs, phone number of Jayaraman etc with him, and the Police promptly informed Jayaraman by 11:45 PM.

Saturday, 21 Sep 2013

Jayaraman, Kalyani, Poornima went to Pondy with Balan in a taxi at 1:40 AM and after Police formalities,  and a post mortem, Vijay's body was handed over and they returned to Vadapalani at 4-00 PM. The cause of the death will be disclosed in the pm report later.

Vijaya and I reached Jayaraman's place by 3 PM; Savithri had already reached there in a taxi from Hosur; Ramesh, Viji, Vasanth were also there. Arvind and Satish came next on scooter. Mangalam, Gopi, Sudhan came next.

The body was taken inside the house and Sastrigal came and Jayaraman performed the rites to his son. என்ன கொடூரம் இது ! The body was cremated at a traditional cremation ground by 6:30 PM. Most of the relatives left before/after the cremation.
Krithika, Aditi, Arjun, TSG, Mami, Saroja, Athimber, Sugavanam, Sudha, Chandar and family, Subha, Magesh, Priya, Rajesh, Rajesvari came.

Jayaraman arranged for meals from a caterer and after bath most of us ate. We two, Savithri, Saroja - Athimber stayed there for the night. Savithri left for Hosur by 6:15 AM on 22nd.

Sunday, 22 Sep 2013.

Savithri left at 06:15 for Hosur. We stayed in Vadapalani till 6:15 PM
Jayaraman collected the ashes / bones from the Mayaanam, went to the beach and அஸ்தியைக் கரைத்தான். Balan, Ramamurthy athimber went with Jayaraman. Afternoon at 3:30, the Sastrigal (Shri Ganapathi Sastrigal) came, gave details of the rituals to be done (40,000); The 9th, 10th, 11th, and 12th days' rituals will be done in Sri RAAMA THEERTHAM at Ramapuram (4 km from Jayaraman's place) [ Rs 6200.00 for four days]. Jayaraman, we two, Saroja, Athimber discussed with the Sastrigal (Sri Ganapathi Sastrigal). I called up a taxi and we two plus Saroja - Athimber travelled together.

Saturday, 28 Sep 2013

Today, the 9th day rituals were performed by Jayaraman at the Rama Theertham. None of us went. He did the Kariyams for all the days from 20th to 28th. After returning home by 10:45 Jayaraman, Kalyani, Poornima ate.

Sunday, 29 Sep 2013.

The 10th day ritual at Sri Rama Theertham. I called up a large taxi and we started by 8:10 AM. Picked up Saroja-Athimber, and then Sugavanam. On the way we picked up GBS and Mami from their Adyar house. We reached the place by 8:45. Jayaraman, Kalyani, Poornima arrived by 9. Suresh has come from Mumbai. We had breakfast Pongal there.

Sastrigal started rituals by 9:15. First Sugavanam and then I took bath with பஞ்சகச்சம் Veshti on, and performed  with ஈர வேஷ்டி on, the குழி தர்ப்பணம் with the holy cloth (வாஸோதகம்)  and with Til (திலோதகம்). For all these 10 days. For the 1st day three times, for the 2nd day four times etc till 10th day twelve times. Then Jayaraman did 10th day rituals. J has been given a room (R. No 9) for all this.

It was followed by பத்து கொட்டுதல். Poornima, Vijaya, Saroja, Kalyani did this. Then பிண்டம் கரைத்தல். Then all of us took bath again, wore dry Veshti. Jayaraman did சாந்தி ஹோமம் (ஆனந்த ஹோமம்). This completed today's (10th Day) rituals. After a good lunch there (Rs 2500 for 10 people, incl breakfast), we four came home by 1:10. Kalyani was unwell, with vomiting; so Saroja went to help her. Suresh also went. He left by 5 PM for Mumbai.

Monday, 30 Sep 2013.

The 11th day kariyam today. Sugavanam also went direct to the Theertham. Karyam started by 9-15 and completed by 1 PM. Kalyani and Poornima did not go today. J and S purchased vegetables, fruits, ilai etc. Earlier, Jayaraman had purchased தாம்பாளம், கிண்ணங்கள் (பித்தளை) etc from Vadapalani itself.

Tuesday, 01 Oct 2013.

Today is the 12th Day.

We two left at 0715 by bus for Vadapalani. I took idli at a hotel before walking to J's house. The cook Mami had already come and had started work. J and Sugavanam left by 8-45 to the Theertham. After சோடஸம் (16 பேர்களுக்கு அரிசி, பருப்பு, வாழைக்காய் தானமாக தருதல்), and ஸபீண்டிகரணம் (இறந்த ஆத்மாவை பித்ருக்களுடன் சேர்த்தல் - சிறிய பிண்டத்தை பெரிய பிண்டத்துடன் சேர்த்தல். இத்துடன், இறந்த ஆத்மாவிற்கு “பித்ருத்வம்” கிடைத்து விடுகிறது. இனி கடைசியாக விராஜ நதியைக் கடந்து பித்ருலோகம் செல்லவேண்டும். அதற்காக, குடை, விளக்கு, கைத்தடி, செருப்பு, பாய், படிக்க புஸ்தகம், ஓடம் போன்றவற்றை பிராமணர்களுக்கு தானமாக தர வேண்டும்). இதற்கு முன் செய்யும் ஸ்ராத்தம் தான் இறந்தவர்க்கு செய்யும் முதல் ஸ்ராத்தம் (ஆத்ய மாஸிக ஸ்ராத்தம்) மிகவும் ஸ்ரத்தையுடன் செய்ய வேண்டும்).

J and S returned home by 12-15 noon; J took bath. The Sastrigal came by 1-15PM and started சோதகும்பம். One Brahmin came and he ate the Sothakumbham meals - ஸ்ராத்த ஸமையல். (இது பித்ருத்வம் அடைந்த  ஆத்மாவிற்கு செய்யப்படும் முதல் ஸ்ராத்தம். இந்த ஸ்ராத்தத்திற்கு “விஸ்வேதேவர்கள்” வரிக்கப்படுவதில்லை. பின்னர் பிராமணருக்கு குடை, விசிறி, பாய், கைத்தடி, பித்தளை சொம்பு, பஞ்சபாத்திரம் - உத்தரணி  ஆகியவை தானமாக வழங்கப்பட்டன.

Later, all six of us ate by 2:45PM. We stayed back at Vadapalani; so did Sugavanam.

The Apara Kariyangal are over with this 12th day rituals.

Wednesday, 02 Oct 2013 - Shuba Sweekaaram.

Ashok came from Bangalore at 5:40 AM. All of us took bath and breakfast; we were ready by 8:30 AM. Two assistant-Sastrigals came and started the proceedings at 9:10. Mangalam, Sudhan, Saroja, Athimber joined later. Kalyani's anna - manni also came. The Navagruha Homam was completed by 11 AM. The Sastrigals left, and at 11:30 or so we had lunch. There were a total of 17 persons for the lunch.

Eight of us returned together to  Besantnagar - Thiruvanmiyur - Perungudi in a single Taxi. Ashok left at 9:30PM for Bangalore by bus.

Thus, the 13-days kaariyams of VIJAY were successfully completed by Jayaraman and Kalyani.

The first 27th-Day Una Maasikam is on 17 Oct 2013 (Thursday).


Rajappa
3-10-2013
11:30 AM